Continuing with the 4 teachers closely associated with ACIM who had a major impact on my thinking, today my focus is on Hugh Prather. I just finished his book, How to be Happy and Still Be in the Worldwhich was wonderful. Surprisingly, it’s the only book I’ve ever read by him! I’m going to read Notes to Myself, next.
I met Hugh Prather in the early 1990s at an ACIM event in Dallas when I was in my mid-20s. He had given a hilarious, moving talk about marriage and I felt inspired to ask him a question afterward. He thanked me for my question, suggested I walk with him to get some water, and spent close to 30 minutes talking with me. He was very down-to-earth and one of the nicest people I have ever met!
I encountered him again at a conference in California. Marianne Williamson had given a talk that was not well-received. I have notes on it somewhere so could probably give better specifics if I could motivate myself to find them, but based on my sketchy memory, I think it had something to do with India not wanting Pepsi (or some other huge American Corporation) to come into the country because it would bring with it an undesired American cultural aspect. I wasn’t at all offended by what she had to say, but a lot of people were extremely upset. Unfortunately, she responded a little too defensively and the very large group of attendees split in two and yelled at one another as well as at Williamson. So much for forgiveness and peace!
I don’t remember who directly followed Williamson’s talk but it had to be uncomfortable. Every speaker that followed acknowledged the split. When it was Hugh Prather’s turn, he lightened things up with his great sense of humor, but he was very direct saying that all spiritual teachings inevitably incur division so the division within ACIM was to be expected. (Apparently this was an already well-established division.) I remember that I was very impressed with both Frances Vaughan’s and Hugh Prather’s responses. They were compassionate toward all involved and not judgmental toward Marianne Williamson, or those standing against her, even though I’m sure they landed on one side of the divide or the other.
Prather’s lectures and the short meeting I had with him in Dallas were my only experience of him. I’m not sure why I have never read any of his books until just now, especially since I was so impressed by him. That is (and was) very unlike me. I never attempted to find his radio broadcasts, either. The only thing I knew about him was that he was a fellow Methodist and that he was somehow involved with the ACIM gurus. I had no idea that he had grown up in my hometown of Dallas, that he played tennis, went to SMU, or that his father was the real estate tycoon who developed Highland Park. I also had no idea that he attended the University of Texas in Austin for graduate work. These are all things I am very familiar with.
It sounds like he had a somewhat complicated childhood because both of his parents had several marriages which gave Prather seven parents. According to the NYT article below, of the seven parents there were two alcoholics, a drug addict, an institutionalized mentally ill patient, a convicted murderer (one of his father’s wives) and a convicted embezzler (one of his mother’s husbands). Thank goodness he turned to humor and introspection rather than drugs, alcohol and crime!
His early book, Notes to Myself was internationally famous and has sold millions of copies in over 10 languages despite Prather not particularly liking the book. (He claimed it was “too self-absorbed”.) The SNL parody, “Deep Thoughts with Jack Handy”, was based on that early book and the famous vegetarian restaurant, Moosewood Restaurant, was named after Hugh Prather’s dog which was also mentioned in the book
In the 1970s, The New York Times called him an American Khalil Gibran. He and his wife, Gayle, were very close to Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Circincione. He was also good friends with William Thetford. Some people claim Prather was Thetford’s ACIM successor because they were both so gentle, compassionate, and focused on spreading peace.
Prather died at 72 years of age in 2010 from an apparent heart attack.